Our daughter has been talking a lot about her appearance lately. Whether or not she looks cute, or if she looks like someone else. She has referred to herself as ugly and not pretty and it breaks my heart.
She’s eight years old people! That is way too young to be so preoccupied with her appearance. But isn’t that the world we live in?
This was kind of a wake-up call for me to watch what I say. I have struggled with loving my body since I was in high school when my stretch marks appeared and this little roll of fat on my stomach wouldn’t go away. I have called myself fat and ugly and I’m sure that my daughter heard me.
How awful. Not a great example for her.
So now, I try to not voice those comments when she’s around but really I shouldn’t be talking so negatively about myself at all. It’s a struggle, which I’m sure you’re all familiar with. But how do I change the way I see my body? Honestly, I don’t know. This is not a blog post with all the answers.
This is a blog post that I need to read. This is a blog post with encouragement, with love and with reminders of why our bodies are amazing - no matter what they look like.
You are a daughter of God!
WOAH - this one always gets me. It helps bring me back down to earth when my head is filled with insecurities. I am a daughter of God. I have a Heavenly Father who loves me unconditionally. Even when I’m impatient with my husband or my kids. Even when I’m a little too stern. He loves me - no matter what.
This one comes with such a strong reminder that my body was created by my Heavenly Father and it was created in His image. THAT’S AMAZING! My slightly curved spine, wonky heart and that little baby fat roll that won’t go away was chosen for me by my Father who loves me.
Okay - so maybe it’s not that bad.
Nobody is perfect.
Have you followed @thebirdspapaya on Instagram? If not, go follow her now!
Social media can be wonderful. It brought me in contact with some amazing authors and stepmoms and I have made some close friends through it. But it’s also a slippery slope. Let’s be real, most people just post the best of their lives. They aren’t posting their fresh faces or their hard moments, their anxieties or their fights with their partner. People post what they want you to see which can make you believe that their life is oh-so-perfect.
Newsflash: it’s probably not.
So, remember on social media that things might be photoshopped and if someone’s post makes you feel angry, sad, insecure - unfollow them! They won’t know and you’ll feel a heck of a lot better. You are worth taking care of and you need to surround yourself with positivity.
It’s not easy!
I go through waves with loving my body. Recently, I remember looking in the bathroom mirror at work and seeing someone who was too big. Whose clothes were too tight and whose cheeks were too puffy.
The next day, I liked my outfit. I didn’t look so puffy, so round in places I want to be smooth. It was a high-low rollercoaster within a 24 hour period! COME ON!
Self-love is a constant journey, especially in this world where our self worth is constantly attacked. I struggled with an eating disorder in high school and got down to a sickly low. Now, I weigh more than I would ideally like to but that doesn’t mean I’m not beautiful. Those extra pounds don’t diminish my worth and make me less worthy of my own acceptance.